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I’ve never liked drinking anything liquid with alcohol as a minor (or major) component. From the very first time I tasted it to the times I was forced to endure taking it. And when I say "forced" I dont consider peer pressure or social gatherings as factors that can mitigate me to drink alcohol. Its only my immediate family that can force me. Not even my bestfriend can lure me into drinking one.

Drinking alcohol is an unknown phenomenon for me. I can understand people who smoke. There has been scientific studies conducted why people cant easily quit smoking. Cigars (or pipes…whatever) brainwashes people. For me, drinking alcohol isn’t psychologically induced…its more of a pressure factor for acceptance. Admit it…the very first time you drank alcohol was 30% curiosity and 70% social pressure. Of course there are obvious exceptions. But generally speaking, that’s it right? You wouldnt have tried it had your uncle prodded you. Or if your barkada didn’t pressure you by calling you "sissy". Or if your boss didnt give you any other choice than to "makisama ka naman!". Its really more of the social pressure that people drink. Im sorry, but Im not easily swayed by the "general public".

Its like smoking…but with a twist. Some people also take it to lower your inhibitions. To make you more outgoing or generally give you confidence. I really wonder why people rely on alcohol to give them that. The silent and secretive office clerk suddenly becomes talkative and brimming with stories. The brain of the group suddenly cracks out jokes. Or the "miss prim and proper" suddenly took hold of the videoke mic to sing a noisy song. These are prime examples of what people rely alcohol for. Its kinda…how do you say this…umm…P-A-T-H-E-T-I-C!!!

To tell you the truth…sometimes I test some of my friends using this method. You can always see how easily they give in to proddings and pressures of other people. People like to say "wala ako pakialam sa sinasabi ng ibang tao". Pero usually those people are the first ones to give in when pressure strikes. It only proves their weakness of personality.

I hate alcohol. For the past 5 years, it had steadily killed 5 people in my family. Physically, emotionally, or socially. I hate the way it brings empty promises of joy.

It killed my social life tonight. Some of my friends should have known better than to offer alcohol to me and drink in plain sight of my eyes. Im sorry but I dont really care what people think of me. Its one way to know that you drink…but its an ENTIRELY different situation to actually SEE you drink.

I’ll stop now. Oh! I almost forgot…I HATE ALCOHOL!

Whoa! My 3rd straight post in a week! Hehe…nwei I just read an interesting article from one of my favorite cartoonist…a good read! ^___^
(feel free to comment!)
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I’ve noticed that men generally believe they are “different” from
women, whereas women generally believe men are “defective” women. You
can see that perspective in the comments to my last post.

90% of the gender difference seems to be the male preference for
compartmentalizing thoughts while women think everything is somehow
connected. Here are some phrases you rarely hear from women:

“I didn’t wrap your present because you’d just throw away the wrapping anyway.”

“Let’s skip Valentine’s Day this year so we don’t miss CSI.”

“Your personality is grating, but I’d do you in a heartbeat.”

“Bob died? Huh. What’s for dinner?”

No guy would ever say those things around a women either, but not
because he isn’t thinking them. We guys have learned how to blend in
and talk like women when it’s necessary. It feels like being a German
spy during WWII and you’re always worried someone will ask you a
question about the Yankees.

If you’re male you have to do a lot of internal editing before you
let anything fly out of your mouth. The best way to filter is to ask
yourself how a woman would react to what you’re about to say. Here’s a
little test to see if you know how this works.

Suppose a male sees a car that’s a hideous shade of green and he
blurts out to a friend “That is one ugly-ass car!” Now Using the Theory
of Gender Compartmentalization, match the friend’s gender with the most
likely response:

A. “Holy $%#*&, that color is just wrong for a car.”

B. Silence, while thinking “He hates my green sweater.”

BOCTAOE

Hmm…this coming summer would be another adventure for me. I wonder what would happen? I have to admit, I was a little bit hopeful that everything would turn out ok for the time being but at least I’ll view this as an opportunity for something better. And from a dashed hope comes another new hope…^__^

Last Friday, I accompanied my cousin to the airport. His mom was coming home from Oman. She’s only on vacation and will be going back aftr a few weeks. We got there early…around 1.5hrs too early. I think my cousin was excited. ^__^

Anyway, I got the chance to observe the main arrival area of NAIA airport. It’s the main international airport of Manila here in the Phils. What I first observed there was the huge pile of bags people carry around using those "push-carts". And when I say huge…they’re HUGE! They range from carrying bags to big boxes up to big water containers! Yes, I even saw someone use a big water container (or tank…whatever) to put his belongings into. The area was a mess with people and their bags, boxes, or water containers. Hehe…

Another thing is that I think almost all Filipino arrivals are happy. The only ones that I didntt see smiling were some foreigners who I think were only here for business. People were just brimming with stories and even if they don’t say it out loud, I think they’re just happy being home. There was a mother of two who were greeted by her sons and they can’t stop hugging each other. There’s also a couple who I think should get a room somewhere due to the kisses that they shared. Hehe. There were friends’ helping each other’s baggage and talking about their own experience during the flight. They didn’t mind the heat (but I did) eventhough its 3pm in the afternoon. The arrival area sure is a happy place.

And my cousin’s smile when he saw his mom waving at us sure is proof of that…^___^

"Did you take the garbage out? Who left the seat up? What are you
thinking about? Are you listening to me?" We all know the drill — you
come home from a night out with the guys and before you can make it to
the john to evacuate those last few beers, it starts.

It wasn’t always like this, was it? She used to laugh while she wiped
away the sloppy joe that missed your mouth. And she thought it was cute
when you walked around the house in your tightie whities. Well of
course she did, at least that’s what she wanted you to think. But as we
all know, the female species is smart, if not genius, and your woman
knew that she had to suppress her desires to voice her disgust at your
obvious immaturities long enough to get you hooked. Now that you’re
squirming, you could be in trouble.

Let’s face it; most women are always going to nag, and most men are
always going to cheat. It is, quite simply, human nature. You can also
rest assured that whatever it is she’s nagging about is probably her
fault. All right, all right, it’s only her fault 99% of the time. She
probably just thinks she gained a few pounds and needs a reason to
vent, but be sure you’re not the one to break the news that she’s
"retaining water."

So since we know that she’s going to nag for no apparent reason anyway,
we might as well try to understand why women do what they do and find
some way to deal with it.

why does she nag?

Don’t start feeling guilty just yet because chances are that her
nagging has very little to do with you. But in all fairness, if she
"asked" you to take out the garbage ten times and then "tells" you to
do it before she empties it on your convertible, then you could be part
of the problem. Nevertheless, she is overreacting a bit.

Female nature
Most women nag because it is in their nature to do so. They grew up
watching most of the women around them doing it and were taught that it
was the best way to handle men and their occasional inability to
function on a normal human level. This applies even more so to the
women who are just coming of age, as they were brainwashed even more by
television shows like Roseanne , in which the entire emphasis was on
pointing out men’s many failings.

The big picture
Sometimes women nag over some seemingly insignificant thing in order to
work their way onto larger issues. She knows that it is going to get
you peeved and plans on using that anger later to bring up whatever it
is that is really bothering her.

She’s a little loopy
Have you ever thought that perhaps she’s just plain crazy? I know that
it’s hard to accept, but when it comes down to it most women are at
least mildly psychotic, if not full-blown lunatics. So remember, if she
is indeed a wacko, when the nagging starts, don’t push her to the point
of dismembering your favorite member.

types of naggers

A female nagger can be classified in one of four groups:

The Innocent: This is the one nagger that doesn’t really mean to
nag. She brings up problems that she has to make you aware of, but
tries to do so without making you angry or starting an argument.
Chances are her intentions are good, she just needs a little work on
her approach.

The Chatterbox: This nagger never seems to stop. But her nagging
rarely escalates into real fights because you’ve probably learned to
effectively zone her out (by the way, this is a good method that I’ll
cover later; just don’t let her catch you).

The Riddler: Ah, the nagger that nags without nagging (say that
five times fast). She says things like, "Would you like to try and
guess why the green plates are not in the cabinet?" You have no idea
what she’s talking about and she knows it, otherwise why would she be
asking in the first place?

The T-Rex: If she doesn’t rip your head off while screaming at
you, you got away lucky. It seems as though she actually grows horns
when the nagging starts, the room gets a little darker, you know it’s
coming and there’s no place to run. Scientific studies conducted within
the AskMen laboratories showed conclusive evidence that she may very
well be one of Satan’s minions. Good luck with all that.

how can you handle it?

Unless you plan on dumping her, you are going to have to learn to
anticipate, deal with, or simply avoid her nagging. Here are some ways
in which you can do just that:

Anticipate it

1- If you’re coming home late and didn’t call, be ready for it
when you walk through the door. Bring her flowers and tell her that you
had to drive around for hours trying to find a place that’s still open.

2- Most women give off signals when they’re unhappy. If she gets
unusually silent, ignores you, or just seems generally different, it’s
about to hit the fan.

3- Listen to her. Whether you want to believe it or not, most
women will generally tell us at least once or twice what it is that
they are ticked about; we just don’t hear them because they speak in a
special code that only other women can understand. But if you listen
really closely, you might get enough out of what she’s saying to try to
save yourself some of the hassle.

Deal with it

1- The zone-out method. We all do this subconsciously, you just
have to learn to develop the talent to a point where she won’t notice
you’re doing it. This is where you simply nod, smile and agree with her
while not hearing a single word she says. In one ear, out the other.
Just learn to be responsive to the phrase "Are you listening to me?"
But if she says, "What did I just say?" you’re on your own buddy.

2- The "You’re right" method. This one gives you the element of
surprise. As soon as she starts in, you beat her to the punch. "I know
sweetheart, I should have mowed the lawn last week, sometimes I don’t
even know why I forget to do these simple things." She will probably be
so amazed at the words, that she’ll let you off the hook so you can get
back to ESPN.

Avoid it

1- Do something unexpected and counteract any nagging that may
potentially be on the way, kind of like stocking up on anti-nag fluid.

2- Try to figure out what she’s angry about before she tears
into you, and fix it. If you’re proactive she won’t have anything to
gripe about and you can move onto more important things like the
Packers game.

3- Break it off. If the nagging gets to a point where you just
can’t take it anymore, then it might be time to let go. There is no use
in beating a dead dog; chances are that you both already know it’s
over, and maybe that is one of the reasons she is griping so much.

putting it all together

Like I mentioned before, your woman is going to nag no matter what;
that is just one of the prices you are going to pay in a serious
relationship. So, it’s really up to you to decide how long you can deal
with it, or if it’s worth dealing with at all.

Remember; you have to accept her and all of her imperfections if you
really want to keep her around, but if the fighting and nagging
outweigh the good times, it might be time to move on… so that you can
start looking for a new woman to nag at you!